you’re doing it right…

i met a lovely woman recently who lit up when i told her i ran a yoga studio saying “oh i was doing yoga, but i’m not very good at it so i haven’t done it for a while.”

i hear this a lot. expecting the “i’m not flexible so i can’t do yoga argument” i asked her what she meant. she explained that at the end of class the instructor told her to go to “that place” in her head that was quiet and empty. so she spent her time in savasana (final relaxation) trying to find “that place” and worrying about the fact that she couldn’t find “that place” and feeling like she was just not cut out do this yoga thing because her mind was just running around at a million miles an hour.

she was gesticulating and lively and we were laughing, and i explained that everyone’s mind was jumping from thought to thought, and it takes practice (lots, sometimes years) to begin to settle into the quiet spaces in between the thoughts and let them grow. she looked relieved. “did you like it?” i asked, “did you feel good after it was over?” she nodded saying “oh yes, i felt great. but i just felt like i was doing it wrong…”

doing it wrong? what a tragedy. sure there are “right ways” as in ways to align yourself so as not to get injured. but the thing is…with yoga, and with so many other things in life, don’t worry so much about where you think you’re supposed to be with it. just be with it. here and now. and let it feel good. because when it feels good you’re doing it right…

mine too…

“if my heart were a garden, it would be in bloom with roses and wrinkly indian poppies and wild flowers. there would be two unmarked tracts of scorched earth, and scattered headstones covered with weeds and ivy and moss, a functioning compost pile, great tangles of blackberry bushes, and some piles of trash i’ve meant to haul away for years.”

-anne lamott, grace (eventually)

thank you, curious girl…